Why Problem Solving Matters More Than Following Directions
Helping teens navigate challenges, generate solutions, and recover when things don't go according to plan.
Many students spend years learning how to follow directions.
Adulthood requires something different.
Problems do not come with instructions.
At some point teens need to learn how to:
identify a problem
generate options to move forward
evaluate effective solutions
recover from mistakes
adjust when things don't go as planned
That is problem solving.
And problem solving combines many executive function skills.
When faced with a problem, we have three choices:
Ask for Help
Noticing when support is needed.
Examples:
teacher
parent
friend
coworker
2. Meet Halfway
Compromise.
Collaboration.
Flexibility.
Examples:
sharing resources
taking turns
finding middle ground
3. Do It a Different Way
Plan B.
Adaptation.
Creativity.
Examples:
changing the strategy
changing the order
changing the tool.
The Self-Awareness Bridge
Before teens can solve problems, they need enough self-awareness to recognize that a problem exists.
Real-Life Examples
Forgot Homework
Ask for help:
email teacher
Meet halfway:
partial credit
Do it differently:
create a reminder system
Friend Conflict
Ask for help:
trusted adult
Meet halfway:
compromise
Do it differently:
walk away and revisit later
Overwhelmed by a Project
Ask for help:
teacher clarification
Meet halfway:
complete one section first
Do it differently:
break it into smaller tasks
Self-awareness helps teens recognize patterns.
Problem solving helps them decide what to do next.
Together, these skills allow teens to navigate challenges, make adjustments, and recover when things don't go according to plan.
Over time, this strengthens the brain coach that supports independence long after parents stop reminding.
If your teen struggles with follow-through, flexibility, motivation, or solving everyday challenges, executive function coaching can help build the awareness and skills that support lasting change.
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About Me
I’m an educator and executive function coach passionate about helping kids with ADHD and learning differences thrive. After years of seeing bright students struggle with organization, focus, and confidence, I guide parents and children with practical strategies that work in the real world.
If you are ready to help your child succeed and build lasting skills, schedule a 1:1 coaching session today.
